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15th January 2024

Understanding the four horsemen of conflict with Jeremy Davis

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The Synopsis

Jeremy Davis, founder of Jeremy Davis Consulting and a seasoned expert in psychology and corporate training, talks about the world of emotional intelligence (EI) and its role in enhancing interpersonal interactions and navigating conflict effectively.

Understanding Emotional Intelligence

The episode begins with a definition of emotional intelligence, highlighting its importance in both personal and professional spheres. Jeremy recounts his transition from a sports-loving student to a leader in leadership training, driven by a fascination with human behaviour and a passion for aiding others in their growth.

The Four Horsemen of Conflict

A significant portion of the discussion is dedicated to John Gottman’s research focusing on the ‘Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse’: Criticism, Defensiveness, Stonewalling, and Contempt. Jeremy outlines how these behaviours can undermine relationships and offers insights on addressing and mitigating their effects.

Constructive Communication in Conflicts

Jeremy offers invaluable advice on engaging in constructive communication during conflicts:

  • Removing emotional bias from responses.
  • Maintaining clarity and respect in both face-to-face and digital communications.

The Power of Positive Feedback

Furthermore, the conversation shifts to the benefits of positive feedback and adopting a ‘Yes’ mentality to encourage openness within teams. Jeremy discusses strategies to counteract conflict and foster a supportive environment.

Ending Unhealthy Relationships

Finally, Jeremy broaches the challenging topic of ending relationships that hinder personal or professional development, underscoring the importance of growth and self-improvement.


This episode with Jeremy Davis is packed with actionable strategies and profound insights for anyone seeking to improve their emotional intelligence and enhance their relationships. It’s a comprehensive guide for leaders, team members, and individuals navigating personal connections, offering a roadmap to more effective communication and conflict resolution.

Produced by: Storytellers Australia

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